When two people are getting to know each other and are interested in each other, they emit signals to show that they feel attracted, that they like what they are learning about each other and that they want to get to know them more. The problem is that this courtship process that previously took place in person Now we live through networks and the telephone. And that complicates everything.

It is not easy to know what the other person is feeling if we cannot look them in the eyes. and see how your whole body expresses itself. However, there is a very easy way to tell if the other person is interested: whether he answers the messages or not answers them.

The normal thing is that if both people have the same level of desire and enthusiasm to continue the relationship, the messages are fluid. When two people really like each other and are getting to know each other, they look for each other. And this is how they weave, little by little, the relationship while sending signals about their desires and feelings.

Is it normal that you don’t answer me quickly?

There are people who feel very anxious when the other person does not immediately respond to their messages. Sometimes that anxiety when their partner doesn’t show interest in connecting leads them to despair because They don’t know how to interpret that silence.

If you don’t look at your phone…

It is true that there are people who do not check their cell phone every two minutes and who only check their phone at the end of the day or at specific times. There are also people who do not like the tyranny of social networks and private networks, who is able to leave the phone stored for hours while you work, play or rest.

There are even people who neither have a phone nor profiles on social networks and who openly say that they do not like to communicate with their people this way.

If you read the messages, but don’t reply…

In the rest of the cases, that of people who are normally connected, the fact that the person does not answer can mean several things:

• He’s not interested enough in you. That the person who promised to call does not call says a lot about their level of enthusiasm and commitment. It means that their desires are not the same as yours. If you are in a relationship in which your partner is not connected to you, except in specific moments, then it is better to leave the relationship or not start it.
• He wants to show you that he has the power. There are people who demonstrate their indifference with the intention of making the other person wait and who enjoy making themselves desired, even if the other person suffers. The idea persists in the collective imagination that the worse you treat someone, the more desire and love they will feel for you. Whether the indifference is real or not, it is advisable to leave these relationships.

Spending hours or days without communicating is a way of subduing the other person, of keeping them in suspense, of exercising power from a position of coldness or indifference.

• He is only interested in you at specific times. If he only takes the initiative to establish communication when he wants to see you at specific times, such as to have a date with the aim of enjoying a sexual encounter, it means that he does not want a daily relationship with you. He makes it clear to you through the way he communicates with you.

Respond to silence with indifference

I think it’s not worth it staying to suffer when the other person responds with silence or makes you wait for days: In that first contact we can obtain the information we need to know if a relationship is worth it or not.

Leaving a relationship based on these indifference games It is a form of self-care: When you love yourself well, you want the best for yourself and you interact only with people who know how to treat you well and how to show you that they care enough about you to start a relationship.

The key is to leave early – the sooner the better – and stop responding to his messages when there are any.

You have to try not to deceive yourself: It is not fair that there is only communication when the other person wants something from us. They are not taking care of us at all when they leave us in suspense for hours and days. The only thing they are showing us is that it is not really important to them whether we are in their lives or not.

So when they don’t answer our messages It is best not to insist and forget about the relationship as soon as possible. We must leave it behind immediately so that it does not steal our time, energy and attention. And focus on the people who are interested, who do have the desire and who show it to us without problems. Sounds very sensible, right?