Staying in a relationship for years, thinking that time will make marriage easier, is a completely wrong idea. According to experts, There are specific reasons why a couple ends in divorce, even if they have been together since adolescence, that is, 5 or 10 years.. The reality is that there is no mathematical formula that specifies this, although some studies have shown what is the best age to get married.
“Long courtship-short marriage” is a relationship that has been used by psychologists, since when two people fit in at a young age, then their personalities end up clashing at a later stagewhere goals, jobs and other factors mix, leading to divorce.
A second point that specialists define is maintaining a “static relationship,” which is the same as monotonous. The couple does the same activities and are used to the same places, which extinguishes a spark. But the big problem is when both think that marriage is going to revive that flame and it really ends up suffocating..
According to the portal Outfit Magazine, the best way to avoid this breakup is to offer greater dynamism to the relationship, for example by learning new things and visiting unknown places. Another mistake is when the couple asks for time, that is, a ‘break’, which only shows the shortcomings of the courtship and which unfortunately carry over to marriage.
Is there a custom to courtship?
It is a very latent reality and psychologists affirm that it happens to a greater extent to men. When you date a person for so long you get used to the status of “she is my girlfriend” and then it is difficult to assimilate that she becomes “the wife.”. For this reason, the link is not taken with the responsibility it deserves and creates contradictions.
Although they were dating for 10 years and claim to know each other perfectly, which is also a mistake, marriage involves forming a home commitment, limiting personal privacy, doing emotional work and sharing life projects. But that’s where The couple loses their way, because they are stuck in a marriage that continues disguised as a courtship.and in a couple of years or less it’s all over.
Social pressure to push marriage
“And when is the ring?” is how Jennifer López’s song asks, which has entered society at a dizzying rate. When long-term couples get married, they usually do so due to external stimuli and not by their own decision..
The pressure from the families and the fact of putting an end to the continuous questions pushes them to the altar. In addition, a cooling of the relationship, as a result of a “consumed” courtship, also leads them to fantasize with the idea that it will strengthen the emotional bond or that their love story will begin again.