We create alpha males together. An alpha male without a group of admirers would not be an alpha male. The leaders of the groups feed on the desire, admiration, envy, submission and adoration of the rest. Without these admirers, they are nothing.

The alpha male gains male followers for his ability to conquer women. The more he has at his feet, the more macho he looks and the more points he wins in the eyes of others. It works this simple: Fucking women is a demonstration of virility, Awakening desire in them and making them fall in love is a demonstration of strength.

Men respect and envy the leader and submit to him. Everyone ends up finding their role and their place within the group hierarchy and, generally, their objective is to score points to move up in it; either to be close to the leader, or to replace him when he falls.

How women feed the myth of the alpha male

Women play a fundamental role in creating and feeding the leader (who treats us like hunting trophies). Those who manage to be chosen by him see their status grow: others respect the leader’s girlfriend and women admire them. Being the chosen one immediately places you on the throne, next to the alpha male. Thus, we are proof that the male is a powerful and desirable being.

It is a historical legacy: for a long time women have always been outside of public spaces and The only way to have a social position has always been through marriage. However, the Alpha, although he flirts with many, only chooses one to occupy the throne of marriage, the role of wife.

Princess stories make us believe that we can be chosen, even if we are commoners, and that We will get out of poverty through the love of Prince Charming. That’s why we have some hope that the alpha male won’t disdain us after getting a date with us. We think that it is possible that he will realize how special and wonderful we are, and that he will not abandon us after using us.

When a man tells us that we are not like the others, they make us believe that the others are the worst and we are the best.

In the stories of my childhood the princesses were beautiful, thin, perfect, kind and loyal. All the others were represented with defects, and far from patriarchal beauty: fat, ugly, chubby, with physical dimensions different from the norm and with a terrible personality: Almost all of them were envious, bad, manipulative, selfish, ambitious, capricious, and violent.

This contrast between the women and the princess serves to make us feel superior to the others and fight alone against the others to obtain the most precious treasure: the love of a man. This is how they encourage us to have rivalry relationships with others, to behave badly with others and to reject all other women because they are “bad.”

We all want our trophy

This competition is good for the alpha male because he scores more points: it’s not just that women like him, but he makes them fall in love with him and dominates them as he wants while they fight over him. For the alpha male, falling in love with women is a sport: He enjoys it more the more we suffer for him and the more we are pining for his attention.

For many women, the ego can play very tricks on us. In reality we only want to conquer the powerful male to show him who is boss, to subdue him and to demonstrate our own power to others. It is a war in which anything goes to bring the male to his knees at some point: for some women, conquering the alpha male means reaching the social summit where they can be admired by other women (and desired by the rest of the men).

So it’s not so much a question of sex, as a question of power: We like to hunt donjuanes because they are more difficult to get, because there are many more women trying to hunt him down. We like challenges and we like to win in all battles. That’s why we are capable of falling in love with an alpha male who can use us and leave us stranded when he no longer needs us.

His manhood will be questioned when he falls in love, That is why the alpha male resists tooth and nail to love. He likes to be loved but is afraid of losing his freedom and power. So avoid falling in love so as not to suffer and to not be manipulated by a woman.

It’s time to dethrone the machísimo

For the alpha male there are two types of women: the good ones and the bad ones. We want to be desirable and sexy women, but in the right measure to to be able to later be chosen as legitimate wives or companions. It is a difficult task to conquer the Alpha with our feminine charms and try to convince him to value us as possible good mothers of his children.

It is almost impossible to have sex and then make him fall in love with you: Alpha males believe that easy women are not suitable to become Ladies. They need girls who do not relate to each other through sex, who are submissive, who love unconditionally, who endure cuckolding, who take care of the happy family and who endure everything with resignation. To the alpha males They don’t like women who demand equality from them: They do not know how to treat them as companions because they have always treated them as enemies or as objects to increase their prestige and demonstrate their virility.

so same We shouldn’t waste time dreaming of getting the alpha male’s attention: For him all women are equal. And it defends itself against all of them with the same force.

Maybe it is time to dethrone him, to take away his power, to stop giving him importance and to relate to other men who live more freely and are not so submissive to gender mandates.

It’s time to choose men who don’t need to collect women, that they do not need the admiration of other men, that they do not need to lead a group and exercise their power in an absolute way.

Maybe we should expand our sexual and sentimental horizon and pay more attention to men who work on their masculinity, who are not afraid of love and who do not need the applause of others.