How should you act if your partner won’t stop yelling at you in front of your children? It is an uncomfortable situation, which takes away your authority and is humiliating. We tell you what to do to stop it.
You may have already talked about it, but he still doesn’t pay attention to you. Regardless of whether it is a man or a woman, there are several things to consider.
The first thing is what leads you to engage in verbally violent behavior or raise your voice. Being upset shouldn’t be a good enough reason for it.
Beyond the relationship with your partner there is an issue of personal and family security. So if in any situation you feel threatened, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline, they can provide you with free advice. and confidential 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
If the concern is not your safety, it is best not to fall into the spiral of aggressiveness. That is, don’t respond with shouts. In a calm tone, suggest that they lower their voice and/or postpone the conversation. for another time.
If you don’t, it’s best to take the children to their room or to someone you trust before returning to face the situation with your partner who won’t stop screaming.
Perhaps you can mention that you would like him or her to go for a walk to release some stress before talking about the problem, while you calm the children or take them to someone else.
The key is not to fall into the dynamic of who shouts the loudest. If there is a problem, efforts should be made to solve it, not to find blame.
It is important to have the conversation in a direction that does not invite unnecessary accusations, shame or blame because once someone feels accused, ashamed or guilty, they may become defensive and not participate in the subsequent conversation at all.
If it is a behavior that has already been repeated, managed, agreed upon and continues to be repeated, it is time to seek psychological help, couples or individual therapy.
Only a professional can advise in this type of situation, giving everyone space to channel their emotions and feelings, as well as tools to manage them efficiently.
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