Having a working partner has two opposite points in a love relationship. The first is beneficial, since you guarantee you are with someone who is responsible and who is surely financially stable. But what if you come across the so-called ‘workaholic’? That person who prioritizes their job or entrepreneurship before everything else and doesn’t dedicate time to you.
If you are going through this situation, The good news is that you have already identified that there is a problem and that is an important first step.. That discomfort or dissatisfaction you feel is what leads you to look for a solution.
The second step is to communicate to your partner what you are feeling, but the fundamental thing is make him understand that there really is a carelessness on his part and that the love relationship (Both of us!) needs time every day, even if it is an hour. Otherwise, the consequences are infidelity or the breakup itself.
In a previous article we mentioned the “trick” of half a glass of wine, which is capable of saving courtships or marriages loaded with work and responsibilities.
What do I do if my partner works a lot and doesn’t dedicate time to me?
Here we don’t want you to use warm water cloths to alleviate the problem for a few days, no, the idea is that you solve it at its roots and that you do it between the two of you.
To achieve this, it is necessary to impose two actions that are super effective in a relationship: communication and agreement. Let’s see what this is about:
They are all the concerns, arguments, complaints and recommendations that you can give to your partner about a specific issue. In this case, the fact that he works too much and does not dedicate time to you.
But here It is not about making up words, but about truly expressing how you feel, why and since when you have been that way.. The ideal is that you bring your emotions under some control and that the message arrives in its entirety.
Next Evaluate what interest your partner has in what you are feeling.if he agrees with you about his carelessness or if he gives arguments or excuses to avoid the topic.
Depending on their reaction and the effective communication they have, you can move on to the next action: agreement.
They are all those pacts or adjustments that are sealed between the two. so that your partner’s work does not negatively interfere with the relationship.
For example, if you work traditional office hours, an agreement is that before leaving you set aside quality time to chat and have breakfast. Video calls during work breaks are also useful, as well as taking advantage of the weekends.
Any idea that occurs to you, and where you both agree, is an oxygen bomb so that the workload does not become an enemy of love. But she remembers: there has to be willingness, otherwise, you are the one who wastes her time.
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