That silver watch, a “lost” image on Facebook, a birthday letter or perhaps that long-sleeved sweater that still fits really well. Imagine that your loved one retains some of these details that, at a certain point, came from his or her ex-partner. Most likely, you will feel uncomfortable in the presence of these “little gifts”, but calm down.since the idea is not to erase your past as if it had never existed.
Saying that it is good or bad to keep the details of an ex depends on three fundamental points: the reason for keeping it, what it consists of and, above all, the importance that you give it.. Many times you will hear an excuse like “those letters or photos no longer mean anything”, but it is an answer that does not put out the fire, but rather diverts it.
The reality is that it is not right, but why do you exist now, unless it is an object that I can still benefit from?. A watch, a well-sized shirt, a telephone or perhaps a pen for the office are details that you should not give importance to, as they only continue to have a useful life. You probably won’t even realize that his ex-partner ever gave them to him.
And what are the memories of an ex-partner that are wrong to keep?
Any detail that in a world called “common sense” is inappropriate or makes you feel uncomfortable. They can be very cute, big, small or colorful, but it is logical that your partner is not going to like that collage full of hearts at all. And the only reason there would be to keep him is if he’s not over his ex yet, which is a big problem.
Something similar happens with photos printed or published on social networks. If your relationship with your ex ended, there is no point in keeping them, unless it is a deceased ex, which is more understandable and you should respect that. However, this scenario requires very good communication, since it is not fair for you to live full time with those types of memories.
Really the big problem with these details is when they have sentimental value.. That Cartier watch that his ex gave him is not that important, but knowing that the gift came on a Valentine’s Day or third anniversary already highlights a date that is obviously annoying to bring to the present. Capisci?
But at the end of the case the most decisive thing is the importance that you give it.. As long as your partner keeps those memories saved and as if they did not exist, perhaps you should not pay much attention to them and focus on your relationship, which is surely also accumulating its great and beautiful details.
However, it is also not bad to tell him in a sincere conversation that as time goes by you would like those memories to be discarded. If your relationship is stable, committed and with good feelings for the future, you will receive the answer that will alleviate your doubts.