Social networks are currently an extension of our lives. In them we share our reality in a more or less disguised way. Thus, If you are in a relationship, the most natural thing would be for your partner to show you on their platforms, but what happens if they don’t? We tell you what it means and what to do.
“My partner doesn’t show me off on social media” It’s a pretty common phrase. We are used to the fact that if the relationships are not serious, there is nothing to complain about in that matter, but What happens when you are in a long-term, stable, future-oriented relationship? Or at least that’s what you think.
The reasons why your partner does not show you off on social networks can be much more complex than the basic ones of “he/she is not sure about the relationship”, “he/she is hiding me from someone” or “he/she doesn’t really love me”.
Let’s go from the beginning, The expectations we place on our partners are our responsibility, not theirs.. Social networks are an environment where we can or cannot share our daily lives: there are those who share everything, those who limit their content to something in particular or those who are simply consumers of social networks, that is, they do not publish anything at all.
Probably, If this insecurity arises that your partner does not show you off on social networks, you may be the type of person who, when in a relationship, wants to show off everywhere.
However, this is not the perception that all people have. There are those who consider their love life part of their privacy, which is why they are more jealous of it. Others know that most of what is shared on these platforms is not real and do not feel the need to share their lives due to simple social pressure.
And let’s be honest, do you really just want your partner to show you off on social media? In my opinion, you should consider the context of the situation. It can be alarming if, in addition to never publishing anything with you, he stops doing other things, such as: introducing you to his family, his friends, being part of his daily life, or directly denying your existence as his romantic partner. That can be alarming.
Now, let it not be alarming, your insecurity is still valid, and hiding it to try not to seem “toxic” can do more harm than good.
If something is important to you, letting your partner know is appropriate. Knowing that, you can tell him your genuine concern about this issue. Taking into account the recommendations to argue healthily with your better half.
In the same way, do the exercise of determining the origin of your behaviors. Is fitting in socially what you think is a happy relationship? Is it seeking validation in society? Is it proving yourself to others? Is it the result of trauma? Is it being rebellious against what society dictates?
Keep in mind that there are many unhappy relationships that look perfect through a screen. The fact that your partner brags about you or not on social networks will not make the relationship better or worse, keeping that feeling to yourself will.
Wanting your partner to feel so proud of you that they share you on their social networks is normal, but if they haven’t, talk about the reasons.
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