A woman used the TikTok platform to tell how she discovered that her husband was chatting with other women, but pretends not to know. If there is something that can destroy a relationship, it is infidelity or deception and you have to know how to act in this type of situation..
Trust is essential in any type of relationship and once it is lost it is very difficult to regain. It requires a commitment from both parties.
Identify what is deception and what is not
Not every exchange of messages represents disloyalty to the commitment you have with your partner. It is a person who has a social or work circle in which there may be women and exchanges of that nature: friendly or work.
But When conversations have emotional, sexual, intimate content or that affects the time you normally share with your partner, it is deception. Even if there is no physical contact to which infidelities are normally limited.
The main thing is to note if it is something consensual or unilateral. We must not ignore that there are people who like to interfere in other relationships, so, if this is the case, her husband should establish limits.
If it is a deception in which both parties intend to deceive, several aspects should be taken into account about what you should do when you discover a deception, according to the portal Marriage:
Chat with other women.
This should be done calmly and politely, because if you confront him aggressively you will end up causing more problems.
When you don’t know or see who you’re texting, there’s no cause for alarm. The question is whether it in any way affects your relationship regarding communication between you, intimacy and quality time spent together.
If you don’t, it may not be a scam. But if the concern persists, ask about her relationship with the woman, whether it is friendship, work, or something else.
If when you walk by while he is chatting he tries to move away or avoid you being able to see his screen, you should set off the alarms. If the conversation is of a work or friendly nature there should be no problem.
If your husband can be trusted, you should let him relax a little if he is always texting some woman because as we said at the beginning it could be a friend or co-worker.
Observe how he communicates with you and his disposition toward your relationship. If he doesn’t like spending time with you like before, there’s a chance he’s cheating on you.
However, make sure of these signs before making any move. Don’t make decisions based on your emotions, as it would be more embarrassing to discover later that your husband is not cheating on you.
Whether because the evidence is significant or because your partner recognizes it, infidelity is a precedent that has only two healthy options: end the relationship or establish the commitment to leave it behind and continue it with the commitment not to do it again.
Keep in mind that any apology without a change in behavior is simple manipulation. Take the time to identify what conditions led to that situation in a sensible way and commit to working on it.
Going to a couples therapist can be useful to mediate these types of complicated processes.
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