Between courtship and marriage there is a stage for the relationship that represents a challenge and that is to live together, or formalize a concubinage, as it is called for legal and social purposes. This period is solely a decision of both of us, and Although the idea of living under the same roof sounds complex, it is wonderful.
It is completely normal that your boyfriend’s proposal to live together causes you insecurity. It is much better to pause and think about it than to respond in a hurry to such an offer. If you feel deep love as a couple, with trust and respect, this is a fundamental first step.. But to confirm if they are ready, there are a series of signs that will guide you.
In one of his programs The life is todaythe Venezuelan psychotherapist Carlos Fraga mentioned that “In any relationship, between a man and a woman, coexistence is a business”. The specialist said it in reference to the customs, routine styles, quirks and endless subtleties of each member that will begin to be shared with the other person.
If you think that love is enough to maintain a concubinage, you are unfortunately wrong. Coexistence is much more than that and depends on external and internal factors. The first is what the house needs to sustain itself and the second is how to transform it into a home.
8 signs that clarify if you are ready to live with your boyfriend
This involves vital appliances such as the stove, a washing machine and the refrigerator, as well as tables, chairs and of course the bed. They are all those implements that provide comfort to start coexistence..
“Hungry love doesn’t last, not even if love is sincere,” says a famous song. If both have stable jobs and an adequate economy to maintain the rent of the house, the payment of services and food, this is a very well accomplished step.
It does not mean that you have already lived alone, but if you are a person used to having your clothes cooked, your clothes washed, and other attention, when you live with your boyfriend these details will change drastically because it will be time to share these daily responsibilities.
If this is your case, it does not mean that you are not ready for concubinage, but you should prepare yourself for these scenarios.
This is a necessary and convenient requirement if your boyfriend’s proposal is to live under his parents’ roof. Although living with your mother-in-law is not an easy task, it is a first step for them to learn to share in the same house, but It is recommended that they do not take long to move to their own place..
This is where internal factors come into play, those that transform the house into a home. Lifestyles refer to work hours, sleeping times, and weekend tastes, among other details.. The idea is that coexistence does not clash due to each person’s customs.
Fundamental! Because from this point, cooperation in the home is born: cleaning, cooking, throwing away the trash, keeping the clothes organized and all the necessary household chores.
It is vital that they work as a team and know how to share chores of home.
Another very important point. But it is not only about knowing your partner’s defects in coexistence, but understand them and know how to find a way to correct them.
Maybe your boyfriend snores at night, maybe you spend a lot more time getting ready, or maybe he gets into the habit of washing the dishes two hours later and not right after eating. More than defects, they continue to be habits.
Here it is no longer worth turning off the phone, hanging up a call or saying “we’ll talk later”. In a coexistence, problems must be resolved with a lot of communication. And if they disagree or argue, the home must continue functioning.