What a great topic. When two people decide to be a couple despite belonging to different religions, in this case you are Catholic and your boyfriend is Christian, they enter a position that is biblically called “unequal yoke.” This scenario causes problems in the relationship because they have opposing thoughts about what it means to have sex outside of marriage..
The first thing you should know is that it is NOT your fault, nor is it your boyfriend’s fault, it is really both your responsibility. For Catholics it is common to have an active sexual life when dating, however, it is not correct in the evangelical Christian religion.. At the very moment they decided to be a couple, an unequal yoke occurred.
To make it more clear, there are some Bible verses that mention two key terms. The first is precisely “unequal yoke” and the second is “fornication,” which consists of “prohibited sexual relations between two people because one is not married to the other.”
In this sense, in the second book of Corinthians, chapter 6, verse 14, the apostle Paul refers to the first term: “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.”; because what fellowship has justice with injustice? And what communion has light with darkness?».
Likewise, the first book of Corinthians, chapter 6, verse 9, states: “Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the immoral, nor the idolaters, nor the adulterers, nor the effeminate, nor the homosexuals. Later in verse 18 he emphasizes: “Flee from fornication.”.
Although the Bible lends itself to multiple interpretations, the Scriptures in this case are clear and not even radical. What is true is that for the Catholic religion there is a “sense of freedom” that is perhaps linked to the lack of habit of reading the Word of God, while in the evangelical Christian church there is greater recurrence in its reading, which does not necessarily mean May everyone comply with it.
What do I do if my boyfriend is Christian and I am Catholic?
In this situation, you directly have three options: one that is sensible, another that is cruel and a third that is brave. I’ll tell you what they are:
This is the sensible alternative. If your boyfriend is a Christian, he congregates and practices Christian activities in which you do not feel the desire to participate. Unfortunately, unequal yoke will cause relationship problems that will not allow the relationship to sustain.
The cruel option. And be careful, this is not a recommendation, but rather a scenario that can arise if both insist on maintaining a relationship where their religions clash in making decisions and understanding each other.
Seduction, passionate kisses, physical attraction, and weakness of the flesh (Matthew 26:41) can cause your Christian boyfriend to give in to temptation and have sexual relations with you.
However, After this happens, your partner will surely enter into a personal spiritual confrontation, feeling very bad about himself for having failed to comply with biblical standards.. Likewise, he will feel ashamed to attend church, may be strongly reprimanded by his pastor, and may even make the decision to end the relationship when the damage is done.
This is the brave path. For an evangelical Christian to become Catholic is difficult to see, because of everything he has probably already experienced. He could leave religion, which is not ideal either, but joining the Catholic religion is very complicated.
This means that you could make the decision to convert to Christ (Ephesians 4:22-24). In this way you will go through a fairly long and personal process of spiritual growth. Only in this way, and if the relationship flows in all the other aspects that a loving relationship demands, both could marry and have sexual relations in marriage..
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