We often mistakenly believe that we help our children or students more if we do or solve things for them. We have it associated with a way of «loving them.» But in reality, that overprotection and that lack of patience and trust on our part in their abilities and their progress, gives them the message that they do not know or cannot. That is why it is vital that Let us accompany them towards their progressive autonomy from a very young age.

Happier children thanks to their autonomy

Let’s see this vital aspect in parenting, thanks to the words of María Montessori:

«Never help a child while he is performing a task in which he feels he can succeed.»

“Help me do it for myself.”

“Do not do for a child anything that he is capable of doing for himself.”

“Making things easier for the child, unnecessarily, instead of helping them only serves to stagnate them.”

“Any unnecessary help is an obstacle to their development.”

Happier children thanks to healthy self-esteem

We often do not realize that focus on criticism and highlight what they do not know how to do (or have not performed as we expected), only It weakens their desire to try again by believing in themselves more and more.

Let’s now look at this vital aspect in parenting, again thanks to the words of Maria Montessori:

“How much fuller and richer life would be if we saw the child in all his greatness, in all his beauty, instead of focusing on all his little mistakes!”

“The attitude of the educator must be that of LOVE and absolute respect for his dignity as a human being.”

“When a child feels secure in himself, he stops seeking approval from adults at every step.”

Happy children thanks to their free movement

We live in complex times in which disconnection from real, natural life is combined with screens and a sedentary life. It is increasingly urgent that we preserve the breeding of such strong tendencies.

Let’s see, in the words of Dr. María Montessori, the importance of helping children continue to be able to move freely and touching real materials with their hands to learn. Screens or learning without real and direct experimentation cannot supplant what life offers them:

“Movement helps psychic development and this development is in turn expressed with movement and action.”

«In fact, it is the basis for the development of personality. The child, who is building himself, must always be moving.(…) I would ask you to consider this idea as a key and a guide; as a key, because it will reveal the secret of the child’s development; as a guide, because it will show them the path they should follow. If you want to give the child the means for his development, you must give them in such a way that the child can and must move.”

“The child who has the freedom and opportunity to manipulate and use his hand in a logical way, with consequences and using real elements, develop a strong personality.”

“What the hand does, the mind remembers.”

If you want to continue delving into this wonderful perspective that María Montessori gives us, we invite you to join our online proposal Master Montessori Method MOBERI (3-6 years) You will be very welcome!, even if you are not a teacher, but a mother or father, interested in accompanying this essential stage in its development in the best possible way.