When we look for the definition of “karma” there are two concepts that, although they have the same meaning, come from different origins. For some, karma is a Buddhist belief that is interpreted as an energy that works based on human acts, they even call it the “spirit of justice”. However, for other believers of karma it is about a “universal law” that states: what is done here, is paid here.
When we take this to a relationship, you will surely think about infidelity. “He who deceives in love will be deceived in love”, “the unfaithful will become a victim” and “be careful with betrayal, because everything comes back”, are some of the best-known expressions in the world of love. But how true is this reality? Do karmic relationships really exist?
The answer is yes! Of course there are karmic relationships, but they are not produced exactly by the effect of the karma of that “spirit of justice” or “universal law.” The reality is that karma begins in the mind of the one who has betrayed, the one who has been unfaithful.and it is not only focused on love, but also on family, money. Karma begins when a human being feels GUILT.
When we fail in a relationship and we were responsible for the breakup of a previous relationship, we think and even affirm that karma is now chasing us. It also happens that when we are victims of betrayal, we wish that things go badly for that person, because of the room we give to revenge in our hearts.
But the only truth I feel in all this, with respect and without disparaging those who believe in karma, is that everything is based on mental harassment and moral remorse. We turn a relationship that unfortunately fails into a self-punishment where we ensure that we have paid our karma.
And sorry, this does not mean that you “do and undo” because karma does not exist, no, it is about despite the mistakes of the past, caused or not, we have learning that provides second chances. And they do not necessarily have to be with the same person, but in other relationships where we can reinvigorate ourselves morally, leaving the past behind and aware that we can humans.
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3 tips to prevent “karma” from ruining your relationship
There are those who believe that living in positive energies and harmony is vital to succeed in love, something that is respectably valid. When you clean your energies through forgiveness, letting go of attachment and above all with SELF LOVEwe are silencing any thoughts that make us feel like we are going to be haunted by karma.
This is essential! Forgiving is an action that allows us to let go: feelings, negative energies, grief, loneliness, anger and endless emotions that prevent us from being happy.. It doesn’t matter if the other person doesn’t offer you forgiveness, because you have already done what was within your power and now the most important thing is to forgive yourself.
To find the path of forgiveness we must be at peace with ourselves. If we enter a relationship with pain from the past, those feelings will undoubtedly invade your new history, and the easiest thing to do will be to call it “karma.”
Imagine that you are playing tennis with your partner, each one has their racket: the one for infidelity and you the one for revenge, while the ball is pain.
When someone is unfaithful to you and you choose revenge, you are practically lowering yourself to the same level and there you could also fall into the “chase of karma”.