A man who repents of infidelity is practically “a miracle.” Excuse the varied male gender of 2023, but there are few who feel guilt or remorse after reaching 7 seconds of an orgasm with a woman who is not their partner. And now that?
The good news, in the midst of disaster, is that you experienced regret. It is the first step to recover your love relationship or think about how you should act so that it does not fall.. Because yes, telling your partner about infidelity is an open debate, even among dating experts and therapists.
The next step is for you to end that extramarital “relationship,” which is not always easy. There are lovers who threaten to tell about infidelities, perhaps because they fall in love and want something more or perhaps because you never had any idea who the person you went to bed with is.
What should you do if you regret it after being unfaithful to your partner?
In the book “Infidelity in committed relationships”, the authors highlight: “Be that as it may, in general terms, honesty and communication are the healthiest strategies If the objective we seek is for the relationship to be maintained in a non-artificial way”.
However, When you choose honesty and tell your partner about your betrayal, no one, absolutely no one, can guarantee that your relationship will succeed.. From that moment on, that person will go through a process of shock, denial, catharsis and healing that you cannot (nor should you) touch.
Imagine that you have passed him the ball and all you have to do is wait to see if he goes with it or returns it. And even if he returns it, you are not guaranteed that the game or the dynamic will be the same.
The only thing your partner can recognize you at this moment, devastating for them, is that you had the courage to confess it. And the most valuable thing you need to give him now is time and space, which does not mean disappearing, but respecting his process..
Your partner needs to understand why it happened and what went wrong.
Although infidelity could occur for different reasons, not exclusively a carnal desire that you wanted to satisfy without thinking about the consequences, your partner will also have to think about it.
Experts in love affairs assure that an emotional or sexual betrayal comes from the responsibility of both parties.because for someone who deceives you need someone who has been deceived, and the shortcomings of the relationship could have led to the adventure.
You should also know that in your infidelity, beyond your regret, “secondary enemies” arrive. For example, his friends, who will try to convince him to break up with you, his family, who will be hurt, or who knows if there is a suitor who rubs his hands over your fateful mistake.
For anyone, A betrayal is painful, shocking, and even embarrassing. However, for the unfaithful it is also complicatedbecause guilt, regret and remorse (not counting the idea of karma) take you into a psychological terrain that is very difficult to cope with.