No matter the reason why your relationship ended, the possibility of missing your ex-partner is always present, and is even part of the stages of a breakup. The dilemma is when you miss him so much that you feel tempted to send him a message and express itassuming the risk that you will not receive the response you expect.
If you are deciding to do it, although your best friend may tell you otherwise, there are some considerations you should make. Because The idea is not just that you say “I miss you,” but that you get a positive or negative interaction.and if it is the second, at least you will have enough reason to forget about that person.
From how to send the message to choosing the best time to do it. We offer you 4 tips so that your message has quality, prudence and opportunity.
How to tell your partner that you miss them
Get to the point with the intent of your message, so that you don’t create confusion about what you really want to express.
«Hi how are things? “I was stopping by to tell you that I miss you and that maybe I would like to know about you.”.
That message is not bad at all, it is even tender and sincere, but it also shows weakness. It is preferable that you opt for something more direct: «I miss you» either “I want you to know that I miss you”.
Never send words like “How do I not miss you?” “I miss you and I don’t know what to do.” either “I just realized how much I miss you.”. The reason is that you inject a dramatic dose that takes away romanticism and could cause disinterest for your partner.
Choose the night to send a “I miss you” reduces the chances that the person is busy or unattended on the phonedue to work issues and daily activities.
But don’t wait until 12:00 at night either, because you will run the risk of your ex-partner being asleep and spending the entire morning thinking that they have ignored you when in reality they are snoring.
The best time is 8:00 or 7:00 at night.when you will surely have more time to read your messages and not worry about other things.
Fundamental! If the relationship is 3 days after ending, a “I miss you” can be really misplaced, especially if you were the one who decided to end it.
The most strategic thing is that you allow a reasonable amount of time to pass, a couple of weeks or a month, at least. This way you will also give him the opportunity to miss you too.
However, there are unexpected breakups that may require a quick “I miss you” so they can react to a possible bad decision to break up.
This advice is directly related to the response you may receive, for which we leave you 2 sub tips.
The first is that analyze the context of what your relationship was and the breakup, so that there is at least a chance that you will receive a positive interaction. Nor is it the idea that you are going to a guaranteed defeat, because… For what?
And the second thing is that Take it calmly, because anxiety can lead you to wrong decisions, such as insisting with another message when they haven’t responded to you yet.
It is best that you act in the presence of a friend or family member who knows the situation and who can help you distract, control and even console you, in case the response was not the best.
A “I miss you” is always expectant and it is not easy to make the decision to give such an expression to an ex-partner.
Likewise, there is always the possibility that that person will become emotionally stronger, which is not always positive, or that he will enter into a melodramatic game so that you repeat over and over again how much you miss him. If that is the case, he aborts the mission.