In our hearts there is a little corner reserved for exes, a comfortable space in which they remain calm without disturbing, without attracting attention, without invading other spaces. When we leave the relationship, the exes get smaller until they fit in it and you, finally, have room to have new romances and new loves.

There are exes who calmly accept being placed in that little corner of your heart, who become smaller and settle comfortably there, in the company of other exes. However, some rebel and refuse to enter it.

They feel that in that space we left them in the past and They want to be in the present at all costs, They want to be present in your life, they want to be part of your daily life, they want to be in the foreground all the time.

They can’t stand being one more in your heart, They can’t stand you living your life and having new affections and new loves. Most of them are like the dog in the manger: they neither eat nor let them eat.

Why do some exes resist you forgetting them?

It is an ego problem, fundamentally. But there is also a lot of machismo in their refusal to be kept in the exes’ corner. Normally it is because they do not want to be one more, but also because They find it unbearable that a woman forgets about them and live your life as if they did not exist.

It is arrogance, it is selfishness, it is egocentrism, it is also evil. This type of ex is the worst and most dangerous because he compulsively dedicates himself to making women fall in love with him. His self-esteem depends entirely on the number of women in love he has at his feet.

This type of ex, even if he doesn’t feel anything special for them, wants to have a good list of women in need of love, an agenda of girls to call when you get bored of your girlfriend or wife.

Some of them actually don’t have a partner nor do they want to take you to bed, much less have a brief romance, much less resume the relationship.

Most of what What they want is to feel important, simply. Feeling necessary, feeling that you cannot be happy without them, feeling that they occupy a monumental space in your heart. They tend to be insecure men with many masculinity problems.

Their strategies for getting out of the exes’ corner

To try to have a presence in your life, this type of Ex is capable of kicking the door of your ex corner and going outside to invade your entire heart. The most common strategy is to lie, play the victim and try to make you feel like a special woman, different from the others. That’s why it tells you things like:

• «I miss you so much, I dream about you at night.»
• «I’m finally realizing how much you’re worth. Before, when I was with you, I didn’t see it and I regret it a lot.»
• «I was stupid treating you badly and letting you go, I wonder if I could go back…»
• «I’ve never felt as much for someone as I do for you.»
• «I have never fallen in love with anyone again and I only think of you.»
• «Ours was so special that I don’t think I will ever feel the same with others again.»
• «I ask myself what my life would be like if you were with me, I’m sure I would be happier.»
• «I regret so much that I didn’t know how to enjoy being with you.»
• «If I could go back in time, I would make you the happiest woman in the world.»
• «If you gave me a chance, I would show you how much I have changed.»
• «I think about you all the time and I keep you in mind every day, even when I’m with my girlfriend.»

Many use the trick of making you believe that their current girlfriend does not satisfy them, that he is bored with her, that he is unhappy, that she does not love him or that he feels trapped because she is a bad person, restricts his freedom or does not give him what he needs.

He will always try to compare you so that you think you are better than his current partner. She believes that her partner will never know how badly she is talking about her to seduce you. He also doesn’t care much if he finds out. For the most sexist exes, any method to seduce a woman, even if it involves lying and speaking badly about other women, is valid.

What to do if your ex is this type?

To these egocentric exes, who do not feel comfortable in the exes’ corner, We must definitively remove them from our hearts. Because in order to fall in love again, to be able to live our lives, these exes have to become smaller and smaller, until they fit in their little corner.

And they have to stay there calmly, knowing that you love them but that you no longer love them nor are they part of your present. Those who do not have the humility and generosity necessary to make themselves small do not deserve to be in your heart.

11 types of men that don’t suit you (and how to recognize them)

1. Pathological liars

A liar is caught sooner than a lame person, they say. Well, not always, but liars often contradict themselves and they always end up falling into their own trap, no matter how much they take care of the details.

Some they lie compulsivelyeven in things where they don’t need to: the worst are those who, in addition to lying, invent reality with their powerful fantasy to give you a totally distorted image of them, who usually always present themselves as successful men so that you fall at their feet at the first try.

2. Daffodils

Have very good opinion of themselvesbut they are very heavy. They look at each other in all the shop windows, they take maximum care of their image, they also look very beautiful on the inside, they like each other a lot and you can tell when they talk about their body, their clothes, their skills, their knowledge. They are pedantic, and almost make you thank them for letting you be with them.

They need constant applause and admirationbut they forget to reciprocate with the other person, it is difficult for them to speak well of you, and they demand a lot of attention.

3. Men with problems

In the first conversations you will be able to realize the problems they have, their dimension and size, and consequently, you will have to evaluate if these problems are going to affect youand to what extent they will determine the relationship. For example, financial and debt problems, problems with an addiction from which they say they have been cured (but not), existential problems and various tragedies (the classic bitter person who wants to make you bitter too), problems with his ex-wife, problems with his children, problems at work or in business.

You may be tempted to be their Savior.: don’t do it. You are not going to save him from anything, you are not going to cure him or change him. You get out of deep wells by working whatever you have to do to generate a change, or several: no one can get anyone out of there. And also, sometimes what help does is delve into the problem, not solve it.

Love is not going to magically transform him, neither are you.

4. Men obsessed with their ex

They talk about her on their first date. It may be just one, or it may be all of them: there are men who live in the past, and who have not been able to forget their partners.

They appear hurt, they have a great feeling of injustice, they feel helpless, they tell their story with great passion, and they want you to take their side. But you realize right away that they didn’t have the problem, he has it, and he hasn’t been able to overcome it.

You walk away because you know that from there, you will never build a couple of two. Your ex, or your exes, will always be there with you, and between you. Run away.

5. Married men

At first they don’t say itbut you can see them from afar. They can’t stay overthey can’t spend their weekends locked up with you making love, they aren’t available at any time, and it’s all excuses.

When they confess that they are married, they usually They want you to believe that their marriage is broken or it is finished, that they need affection because they feel alone, that they are there but they would not want to be, and that they are going to divorce soon. Don’t ever believe themno matter how victimizing they may be. They will never get divorced and they will try to make you believe them all the time.

The excuses are always the same: children, an illness, a problem of any kind… Married men only offer crumbs of their time, they make you believe that you are in the foreground and always place you in the background, they ask you to be empathetic with them and put yourself in their place… Definitely, they are not suitable for you.

6. Men with insecure and fragile masculinity

They tend to be ladies’ men, great seducers. They worry a lot about winning you over and then run away. They measure their virility by the number of women they conquer. They don’t care about quality, but rather quantity, and being able to show off in front of their friends.

They don’t enjoy sex or love because they think more about how they are going to tell it, than about how they are experiencing it at that moment. Are obsessed with looking very manlyand they spend a lot of energy disguising their fears and hiding their vulnerability.

They need your admiration and your desire, they become dominant and refuse to be submissive. They exercise their authority overwhelmingly, and the more insecure they are, the more violent they are.

7. The sexists

They come in all shapes and colors: some are blatantly sexist, others are they concealand others are working on it.

The first ones give you a sexist joke in the second date, they are extremely chivalrous or they are the opposite. If he always walks ahead of you when you walk, Trump style, then he’s probably a guy with an air of superiority. Yeah shamelessly looks at beautiful women you come across, then it’s because their insecure masculinity wants you insecure too.

8. Antifeminists

On the first date he will bring up the topic and tell you things like:

• “The ones from before were feminists, the ones from now are radicals.”
• “Neither machismo nor feminism: humanism.”
• “Now you can’t even flirt anymore.”
• “They are bitter and they are all ugly and lesbians.”
• “Almost all of them are false complaints.”
• “She put my friend in jail for revenge, but he hadn’t touched her one bit.”
• “The feminazis want to destroy everything.”

In fifteen minutes you will stop looking so handsome and intelligentin half an hour you will be wanting to get out of there and never see him again.

9. Feminists who don’t work for it

They are the new prince charming. They seem very feminist, but only in speech: they do not put their revolutionary ideals into practice, they do not take them to bed or to the house. Then they inevitably disappoint you.

You recognize them because in their speech there is no coherence between what he does, what he thinks, what he feels and what he says.

10. Psychopaths

They tend to be charming. Your friends like it and friends because he is also charming with them. He is nice, he shows constant signs of wanting a serious relationship, he is enthusiastic about you and every now and then he finds coincidences between the two. If you tell him that you are passionate about collecting stamps, so will he. If you tell him that you are fascinated by Russian literature or Argentine cinema, so will he.

He is manipulativeso he will try to take you to the reality that he is building for both of you, and will make you doubt yourself. At first everything is wonderful, but soon the conflicts begin. He has a total lack of empathy, although at first he hides very well.

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