There is a type of men who always seem to come and go. Are men who appear and disappear, mysterious men who settle into your life, but only at times. If you are starting a relationship with one of them (or you have been in a relationship with him for a while and you don’t fully understand his behavior), you should know that this intermittency could probably be due to having more than one partner.

In this article I tell you how to identify a person of this type. I also suggest that, when suspicious, you trust your intuition. If you have already reached this text, that means that something makes you suspect that your man’s behavior is not normal.

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Typical behaviors

What kind of back and forth behaviors am I talking about? How to recognize them? Take note:

• Irregular presence. He spends 3 days in a row with you and then disappears for a week.
• Disparate communication. He spends a lot of time sending you messages and then goes silent and can’t be reached.
• Contradictory behavior. Sometimes he is convinced that he loves you and makes a beautiful speech about how great and sublime his love for you is. Other times he forgets to say goodnight.
• Constant doubts. One day he asks you to leave and explains that he needs to find himself, that he doesn’t know what he wants, that he has to think alone. Another day they come back to make you spend a night full of orgasms and passion and convince you that they really can’t live without you (or with you).
• Unequal treatment. One day he surprises you and treats you like a queen. The next day it disappears.
• Changing mood. Suddenly he acts “tormented” and makes a huge fight or a terrible drama to take advantage of the days of disconnection due to “anger” to live his life without giving explanations.

In essence, those men who are and are not, usually in reality They are into many different things. They have several relationships and little time to attend to them all. They all claim and he goes to look for them all and abandons them. That’s how men come and go: that’s how they keep everyone they want on their knees.

Why do men who come and go act like this?

Men who act like this usually do to be able to be with several women at the same time, yes. But the background It’s a question of self-esteem: These types of men love to make many women fall in love with them and they always need to have a few available because that makes their ego fat.

For them, simultaneous relationships are hard work because They need to always have their imagination fired, create scenarios to get closer or further away, lie non-stop and make sure everything fits together so they don’t get caught. They tend to be men with a somewhat stormy romantic history, since women who put up with these behaviors usually get fed up, discover them, and eventually leave them. Of course, many do it with a broken heart and shattered self-esteem.

That is why it is so important that we recognize the behavior of this type of men as soon as possible, in order to end the relationship before the relationship ends with us.

If by reading these lines you have recognized your boy in any of these behaviors, It is worth asking yourself what could be behind them. If you suspect that he may be playing with you, don’t close your eyes to it. Act as soon as possible. Even if it seems painful to face a breakup now, it will be more so the more time you let pass.

In my work with the women of the Laboratory of Love, We often ask ourselves the question of whether we are really capable of realizing if a relationship works or not. We wonder if we can identify the signs that tell us if they are loving us well or not.

Yes we can stop to think about whether or not we are happy in a relationship, because we never lose our ability to evaluate and make decisions that help us be happier.

Why trust our intuition regarding love?

We can trust ourselves because we are adult women. We have already had many experiences, we have already accumulated several learnings and, although we are not clear about what we want, we have become clear about what we do not want.

Some of the things we can do to trust ourselves are:

• Trust our intuition, let ourselves be carried away by that sixth sense that tells us if we are in the right place, if we are feeling good or not.
• Listen to our body, pay attention to our emotions and feelings, listen to our inner voice with a lot of love.
• Ask us questions to be able to analyze our own responses, and to avoid self-deception.
• Assess from time to time if our need to be loved is leading us to settle or resign ourselves to the relationship we are building.
• Set our own red lines, non-negotiable, so as not to constantly give in and be clear about what we need to be well.
• Look at us from outside to see ourselves with the same love with which we look at the women we love most.
• Ask our dear people how our partner looks from the outside, if our behavior has changed a lot, if they see us happy and if they feel that our partner loves us, if they believe that he is treating us well or if we are treating the other person well.

Trusting ourselves means being able to see ourselves as women who take care of themselves, women who are not satisfied with any type of relationship, women who seek well-being and happiness and who know how to make decisions for themselves, as in the other areas of our lives.

Trusting yourself is an art in which we can train daily, in all our relationships, including our relationship with ourselves. For this, it is important that we connect with our ability to love and take care of ourselves, at all times, with the same love and dedication with which we love others.