If a spectacular woman like Halle Berry, Oscar winner, with awards like the Golden Globe, Screen Actors Guild Awards and an Emmy, who has been the personification of sensuality, an iconic Cat Woman, feels pressured to be better, what is left for the rest of us?
The truth is that the aesthetic pressures that women suffer are fierce, and can make us feel continually dissatisfied with our bodies. But at 59 years old, Halle Berry is clear about it. He no longer cares about other people’s opinions, nor about looking good. Now she moves how she wants, wears what she wants and does everything by herself.
Feeling free around 60
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Many women share the same feeling that Halle Berry shared on her social networks a few days ago. The feeling that, after 50, and especially after menopause, the desire to please everyone decreases.
“The best thing about menopause?” Berry writes in a publication in which we see her dancing and enjoying without restrictions“I don’t care what other people think, I’m not trying to act cute. “I move how I want, I dress how I want and I do it for me.”
And after a lifetime fighting against unrealistic expectations about what a perfect woman should be, many come to the conclusion that continuing to try to meet them is a waste of time. “That is the freedom that no one tells you about until you live it,” explains Berry.
For her, life at her age, increasingly closer to 60, has become a “spontaneous dance party.” Berry’s partner, Dali Rose, has written a song about this same feeling, about this powerful moment the actress is in now in her life. “A testimony of where I am right now,” defines the former Cat Woman, “unstoppable, joyful and free.”
An attitude of life
Although Berry herself associates this way of living with age, the truth is that it is actually an attitude that we can acquire at every stage of life. Because it’s just about, as she herself writes on her networks, feel unstoppable.
Along with the video in which we see Berry dancing and enjoying herself, she shares one in which she explains the reason for her publication. Remind the entire world of what inspired your partner to write the song that plays in the background: no one can stop her.
“You can’t stop me. You can’t stop my rhythm. You can’t stop my heartbeat. You can’t stop anything from me«says Berry quoting the song. «I don’t care how old I am, I’m going to hold on to myself. Because age is just a number, and feeling young or beautiful is actually an internal feeling. It has nothing to do with the physical. Vitality comes from within. And we don’t give a damn about the rest, because we’re still here.»
Berry’s speech touches the heart, because as she herself says, age does not matter. You are never too young or too old to say with confidence: You’re not going to stop me. This is the true and only way to live free and happy.
Free yourself from what binds you
Halle’s attitude in her video, in which she challenged other women to follow her example of authenticity and dancing without anything stopping them, can be learned. And to achieve it, you must start with these steps:
- Question the rules you follow out of inertia. Do you wear makeup for pleasure or to hide what others say is imperfect? Do you dress how you like or how you ‘should’? Look at what you do to be liked and decide if you really want to continue holding it.
- Listen to your body, not the standards. Instead of looking at every wrinkle or kilo, ask yourself how you feel. Vitality and well-being begin when we stop fighting with our body every day.
- Enjoy without giving explanations. You don’t need excuses or reasons to enjoy. So stop explaining, and live your life how you want.
- Stop asking permission. Do you want to start a new project? Cut your hair? Leave a WhatsApp group that drives you crazy? Say what you think out loud? Do it. Don’t wait for others to give you permission to live your life your way.
- Surround yourself with other women like you. Freedom and joy are contagious. So look for role models (like Halle) and look for companions with whom you can experience life in a different way. People who judge you, but who push you to be your most authentic version. Because when you find friends and spaces where you can be yourself without a filter, you will always remember that you are not alone in this change.