Some men enjoy making women suffer because it makes them feel powerful. They are patriarchal men: they need to feel important and special because when you look into the eyes of a woman in love you look bigger, more macho, more handsome and more desired. They look twice their natural size.

Virginia Woolf said that women see them like this, and they see themselves in our eyes as if they had a virtual reality mirror. They look like better people than they are.

There are men who need to feel necessary and, some of them, also want to feel essential. And not just for one woman, but for several: Their ego swells and their virility grows to the extent that they manage to conquer and bring many women to their knees. And since in many countries women are free, how do they manage to bring us to our knees? With love.

How to subdue a woman in 3 easy steps

Men have at their disposal thousands of women willing to suffer for love in exchange for a few crumbs of affection and attention. They are rich, they are privileged: there are many women in need of love, and they know well how to conquer them and have them at their feet.

They learn the technique from movies: You should always start with romantic speeches so that she believes that you are naked and opening your heart. You have to mix sweetness with passion, appear honest and sincere, appear vulnerable or seem so and pretend to be in love like never before in your life. Then they add a few promises of the future, a lot of good sex… and there they have them eating out of their hand forever (or until they get tired of suffering and leave them).

We have to take care of ourselves a lot and cut short any man who needs to subjugate us through love to have us whenever they want in their arms. We cannot be available when they get bored or another plan fails, we cannot let them hurt us with one piece of lime and another with sand. Alone, left alone, without anyone to take care of them, without anyone to love them.

The profile of the patriarchal man

Patriarchal men learn from childhood that women’s weakness lies in love and that there is no other way to subjugate them than by making them suffer for love. They enjoy causing harm and you have to flee from them.

When they are left alone, with no one to take care of them, then Maybe they will be able to rethink what kind of relationships they have with women. Or maybe they just change their strategy to get women in love and devoted to romantic passion. Meanwhile… how to recognize them to avoid relating to them?

• They are competitive. Their world is so hierarchical that they are continually comparing themselves to others. They are constantly trying to climb or stay in the top positions. Although it is exhausting to always prove that one is a macho, they obey these gender mandates without questioning whether it is worth it or not.
• There is no ethical or moral problem for them to lie, cheat, betray and mock women. They don’t care if women go crazy or sick for love. In fact, seeing them fall makes them feel very powerful.
• They are strategists. If one rebels or withdraws, they redouble their efforts to get her excited again and surrender to their arms, knowing that later she will cry again, desperate for a little attention.

• They know how to generate anguish necessary to build a toxic relationship based on dependency and suffering. And they know how to escape when the ship sinks: they wash their hands, and look for their next victim.
• They are incapable of loving and caring because they only think about their collection of conquests and their needs. From them they obtain love, care, attention, sex, financial aid or even bank loans.
• They choose loyal, dedicated women and devoted, but, above all, they go in search of submissive and long-suffering women capable of forgetting themselves to completely love their beloved.
• They are looking for understanding and compassionate women that they put up with male dishonesty and that they resign themselves to their misfortune of loving while suffering.
• They need women to watch over them and educate them, that they punish them and forgive them, that they contain them and repress them.

• They prefer women with low self-esteem and high emotional dependence. Patriarchy teaches them that women must be domesticated and treated badly so that they are respected, so that they surrender at your feet, melted with love.
• They have very low self-esteem and a very big ego. They need applause, admiration, recognition and desire from women. They need to arouse the envy of the most macho. They applaud not only the number of women they are able to hunt, but also their ability to keep them begging or demanding love.
• They think they are good people even if they treat their partners badly. They believe that love is a war in which anything goes and that they have the right to emotionally and psychically destroy women to make them more docile and vulnerable. They believe that the normal and natural thing is for them to sacrifice, endure and endure everything while they neither give up, nor sacrifice, nor suffer in the slightest.