I share this powerful review of the book «Onvres: Reflections on masculinity» written by Davide Nuzzolo with whom I facilitate our deep listening encounters between women and men:

«When Juan Antonio Gómez,» Man occupies your place, «gave me the book by Justo Fernández,» Onvres «, telling me» you will like it «, I did not know that the trace that the book would leave in me was going to be so deep.

In this book I finally found the approach to the reflection on the sex-gender construct that, as a man, was looking: The questioning of this constrarity from the privilege and from the propria biography, as main axes.

In the words of Justo, the objective of the book «will be none than», and the approach will make «the observation and identification of the rejectable consequences of normalized male behaviors.» He does it using his biography, and invites us to do the same: to reread our biography with sex-gender perspective, such as when he speaks (they are only two of the numerous autobiographical examples) of his father’s death and remember that, with just 6 years, what people told him was “now you are the man of the house”; Or as when he talks about sexual encounters, and highlights how to force, coerce and press a man to a woman does not usually occur in the relationship with other men, or at least not in this same way.

Reading Onvres has been key to finally allow me to feel in the guts that I am also part of “the herds”, because in me is the seed that allows these actions: because I have been socialized as a man in a society that deals and structures the man in a certain way, providing certain privileges (such as, for example, the one that I had to be able to leave freely with my friends after having accompanied my girlfriend who had to return to my friends. I can’t identify myself anymore.

I can only be honest and recognize myself as part of what I don’t like. And there I just gives me the track of how to continue: he reminds us that The activism of man is to deactivate violent masculinity from withinthat exploits and submits, from which we are part and whose belonging is awarded with male privileges.

Reading Just and his autobiographical reflections has clearly shown me the importance and how to open my biography With a sincerity that had never been possible until now: and, from there, the radical and vulnerable complaint contained on each page, which can sometimes be painful to read by how it questions us, is also tremendously transformative by the realization that it promotes. ”

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