“Tatiana” is a girl who, like any other, has had some problems with her partner “Andrew”, but in three years of dating they were able to face and overcome them. However, recently she received a WhatsApp where she gave him a «we need to talk». Nervously and with subtle resignation they both met and Her boyfriend told her a phrase that she doesn’t know what to do with: “I don’t feel the same as before.”.
If you are facing a situation like this, The first thing you need to accept is that your relationship is in a crisis. Once you recognize it, you abandon a state of denial and now BOTH of you, because yes, it is a thing for both of you, have to make a decision. This consists of formalizing a breakup or identifying what has deteriorated to try to rebuild it.
Your partner’s message cannot be stuck in “oh, you know what, I don’t feel the same way”, but also express what he or she is feeling now.. From there you will know how to get it back or analyze if your reasons are valid.
And what should be the reasons? Arguments, lack of connection, disdain and all those apocalyptic enemies of a relationship. And I can assure you 99.99% that if a breakup does not occur, your boyfriend is going to ask you for time.
My boyfriend no longer feels the same as before, should I give him his space?
You honestly have no other alternative to ending the relationship. Giving him his space means that you will Give him some time to clarify what he really feels. And during that period you are going to do something that is very important: dedicate yourself to yourself, to your self-love..
During this stage there may be emotional communication, but cautious, and where do not be a victim of contemptbecause when your partner adopts an attitude of contempt, his “I no longer feel the same” becomes emotional abuse and it is preferable to decree the end of the relationship.
Once the time has passed, which is not precise (it could be five days or two weeks), it is time to be honest.. Ideas should arise here about how to improve the relationshipmaybe plan a trip together and above all let go of the past. It has to be a “before and after” for it to work.otherwise they will later see each other in the same place and it will probably be intolerable.
It is necessary that both know how to identify what the problems were and prevent them from recurring. If everything goes well from this process, even if you don’t believe it right now, the relationship could be strengthened.