From the Latin “basium” (kiss) and the Greek “exia” (essential), the term basoexia is one of the infinite sexual paraphilias known to this day. consulted by KienyKeDr. Ezequiel López, Argentine psychologist and clinical sexologist, defines it as the indispensable need to “receive kisses to reach an orgasm”.
“Without them you may have some pleasure, but you don’t reach climax,” says the specialist.
In addition to being an incomparable gesture of love, in sexuality kisses represent a foreplay that leads to excitement and subsequently to a physical encounter with penetration. According to what psychologist Ezequiel López explains, basoexia breaks this theory and takes its own path.
The Basoexic, whether man or woman, can passionately enjoy vaginal intercourse with his partner. However, He can only reach the maximum point of pleasure when he receives fiery and effusive kisses, which surely include other caresses.
“Unlike other paraphilias, basoexia is not a problem in general nor is it socially frowned upon, since everyone kisses, it is something completely common and common. However, The situation becomes difficult when the person with the paraphilia has a partner who prefers not to kiss during sexual intercourse.»points out Dr. López.
It may also be related to an adolescent effect or for those who do not have sexual experience, especially in the case of men, since a wet and pleasant kiss could lead to an erection and even ejaculation.
Basoexia can cause “sexual incompatibility”
Sexologist Ezequiel López considers that kisses are part of the erotic repertoire of couples, however, it is a ‘preview’ towards everything that the sexual act represents, which could generate incompatibility between the person with paraphilia and their lover.
“The problem arises when the Basoexic is with someone who prefers not to kiss during intercourse, because we enter a zone of sexual incompatibility”assures the expert.
In this sense, he advises going to a therapist in order to «look for another type of sexual stimulation that can help both of you.»
In 20 years of attending his office, Dr. Ezequiel López acknowledges that he has not yet treated his first case of basoexia, which is why he understands that “it is not a common behavior.”
He also warned that this type of paraphilia is not treated with medications, but with sexual therapy. “Medicines are only given in cases of paraphilias that imply a risk to the integrity of people, as is the case of sexual offenders.”
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