Being charming is a matter of attitude. Physical characteristics take a backseat when it comes to safe behavior. We explain how to use cognitive dissonance to look more attractive.
Cognitive dissonance is a theory in Social Psychology, which refers to the mental conflict that occurs when a person’s behaviors and beliefs do not agree and you look for a justification that makes convenient sense to you.
That is, for example, when you eat meat, but consider yourself a lover and defender of animals. You will probably say that it is a food chain issue or that the fact that you stop eating meat will have no impact. Or when you smoke knowing the harmful impact it can have on your health, but you say it helps you deal with stress.
So far so good, but how can you look more attractive using cognitive dissonance? It’s about getting people to put in more effort when it comes to accessing you.
In simpler words: it is basically “playing hard to get.” Yes, just like your grandmother or your mother told you, let the man pay, the man pick you up, ask your availability and you don’t always have it, take a while to respond, etc.
I know what you’re thinking: “I don’t agree with these sexist structures when it comes to dating.”
Okay, we must admit that it is not the most ethical way to be more attractive, but it is quite effective, because Not everyone has the maturity to realize the hook of dissonance.
That justification that makes convenient sense for the people you seek to impress lies in the fact that someone who requires a lot of effort is consequently valuable.
And when it comes to people, someone who is so hard to have has to be the best thing in this universe. The result? Men obsessed with you.
Applying this psychological trick is not recommended to look for relationships that are healthy and stable, because the detail is being inaccessible to be attractive to many people.
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