Due to his partner’s pregnancy and the arrival of the baby, “Christian” accepted a cohabitation with his mother-in-law, so that they can gather strength for household chores, work and other commitments. However, The dynamic has not worked for him, and for the sake of his marriage, he simply needs the lady to leave the house..
Although at first there was laughter, jokes and anecdotes, his mother-in-law has crossed the line. She has also detected hypocritical behavior and on more than one occasion she has felt that she did not take her move as something temporary, but permanent. In reality, “Christian” backfired.
Although he is not a bad person, His mother-in-law assumes roles that do not concern her, she gets involved in couple conversations, gives reckless opinions and maintains coexistence habits that her son-in-law does not like.. The arguments with her partner have increased due to the situation and now she feels that she only has two options: either she leaves or I leave.
What do I do if I no longer want to live with my mother-in-law?
If you are in the same situation as “Christian”, or a similar one, the main mistake you have made is believing that due to the arrival of the baby or another circumstance, it was necessary for the mother-in-law to come home.
When you get used to a relationship where you live ONLY with your partner, any dynamic other than that can be hindering. Unless it’s the arrival of a baby, and yet, you both need to understand that things have changed, accept it, and work as a team.
The main thing you should do is talk about it with your partner, express how you feel and that you would love to return to the previous dynamic (when you lived alone). It is important that you clarify that you have nothing against your mother-in-law and explain your reasons.unless coexistence problems are evident.
In the event that your partner asks you to try again, you could agree under two conditions: communicating boundaries that need to be fully met, or setting a time for your mother-in-law to leave the house. And another common mistake is precisely that: not setting limits.
Finally, If your partner makes it difficult (because it is his mother) you will have to be braver and clarify that you will move to another house. When your marriage is hindered by a mother-in-law and your partner allows it, you have to take action alone, because you have the right to your emotional and mental well-being.
It is also likely that, due to your decision, your partner will reconsider, because at the end of the day, a courtship or marriage “does not invite” mothers-in-law, brothers-in-law, cousins or friends. Otherwise, you will have to rethink the relationship.