“What’s done is done, what’s done, chest,” says a thoughtful phrase that in its play on words invites you to raise your head and look forward. If you had sex with your ex-boyfriend, obviously you can’t undo the episode, but you can work to make sure it doesn’t happen again.
The answer to why you are sad is because your feelings are not in tune with your recent actions, which causes you discomfort and frustration. Let’s say you had a moment of weakness, perhaps caused by a few too many drinks, and you ended up in bed with someone from your past. Another scenario could be because he didn’t call you again and you believed in a reconciliation based on sex, which is certainly painful.
At the moment The first piece of advice I can give you is to find a distraction., either with a good friend who can listen to you and without judging you or perhaps sharing a family trip. The key is to do an activity that does not require a lot of concentration and that prevents you from thinking about what happened. Time will make you heal that “bad decision”, also hoping that you have used some contraceptive method, even if it is interrupted intercourse.
How to avoid a new sexual encounter with your ex
Having ended up in bed with your ex-partner means that there are cycles that are not completely sealed and that can still cause you harm.
It is time for you to avoid any contact, whether in person, WhatsApp or social networks. If he is the one who seeks you out for sex, ask him to stop and stand firm in your position, if he does not obey your request, choose to block or ignore.
May the next time you have sex be with a stable partner, because you want it and because you are sure that emotionally you will not regret it. Make that promise to yourself, write it down or tattoo it if necessary, but never allow your body to rest in the wrong bed.
As Jorge Lozano, specialist in relationships, would say: “Marital status… Ungovernable!”
Especially to your work, your studies and your daily activities. Join a gym, learn a new language, start a university degree or put more effort into your work.
When you focus on your occupations, you stop thinking about your ex and especially about that sexual episode that you are eager to quickly forget.
Do not judge yourself for what happened, but do feel guilty, because from guilt you can trigger a remedy and forgiveness for yourself.. Compliment yourself, get ready, go to a spa, put on makeup, feel how beautiful you are and move on.
If at this moment you feel an aversion to sexual relations, it is completely normal, due to regret for having been with your ex. One of the healthiest treatments is to have a “truce” with sex, until you regain your confidence or meet someone who is worth it and who awakens your most intimate desires.
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